Think Like A Woman, Not A Man!
A Queens’s mentality…
I have journeyed throughout life being made to feel that how I think is not good enough and that I must adapt to and be inferior to the men around me to be successful. That I can lead, but only other women, not the men. "A woman leading a man, now who does she think she is?" Let me remind you! I want to encourage you ladies to remember who you are and whose you are. Come sun or storm remember to live like the perceptive, intelligent, and superior women you are! I am woman, and my mentality IS that of a Queen!
I will be the first to say that I loved the book and the movie "Think Like a Man." I deeply admire all that Mr. Steve Harvey has accomplished. So, I will not go against anything Mr. Harvey has said or done. However, what I will do is challenge you ladies to pause on trying to think like a man and adopt a Queen's mentality and start thinking like a woman. I believe, what Mr. Harvey was trying to convey to women was a lesson in understanding men, relating to them, effectively communicating with them, and/or building a solid relationship with your present or future partners... which is cool but do not get caught up, it is about understanding yourself first!
Ladies, my goal is to help you first understand who and what you are so when you encounter your soul-mate you are better equipped emotionally, spiritually, and mentally to handle him and the budding relationship between you two. You must first know who you are before you can possibly understand a man, what you require of him, and what you can give.
First off, we were not placed on this earth to serve as pacifiers, fixers, enablers, slaves, whores, side pieces, baby mamas, or trophies- "Shut up, smile, and look pretty!" for immature and internally broken men. We have SO much more to offer than that. But, first we must recognize our worth to demand more! If we are not walking the confident 'I know my worth talk,' some men will never take us seriously and will treat us according to how we act and how we think of ourselves. Should men not be ardently courting, showing his adoration, and pursuing us? So then why are we so quick to chase and beg men for attention and admiration?
When God made woman, it was because we were NEEDED! God said, "It is not good for man to be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him" (Genesis 2:18 English Standard Version). So, he was given a mate, a woman. God could have given Adam a dog, a premium golf course, talking animals, or some friends to hang with in the garden. If the logic were simply about filling Adam's loneliness, God could have given him anything to fill that void; but there was a purpose! God gave him WOMAN, a queen, to stand alongside him as a mate.
Women are required! We are needed! God chose us to purposefully exist, not to chase men, lose our souls over them, fight other women for them, become enslaved to them, and just completely ruin our bodies and hearts for their personal pleasures and motives... NO! We are supreme partners for man, wives and mothers, not a play thing or a girlfriend for a prolonged amount of time, but a supporter, a nurturer, and a helpmate. Ladies, we must adopt this mindset and walk in this dominion, understanding that the word WOMAN emits immense power. Think about it, are we not the vessel whom God chose to birth human kind into existence? Does this not exhibit the grandest ability and authority?!
Ladies, we are a direct reflection of God's endless beauty, we are royalty! Our crowns, when we decide to wear them, are built of the purest and brightest jewels, accentuating our lovely facial features and our uniquely textured hair. Our crowns exude grace, dignity, divinity, love, kindness, and a natural discernment; so wear them well! God has destined us for a purpose all too great to be defined or recited. I mean, without Mary there would have been no Jesus. She gave birth to royalty, and in everything we touch and in every breath we use, we can do the same. Women matter, and so does everything connected to our spirits.
I do not strive to think like a man, I exist to think like a WOMAN, a Queen, and a daughter of the most high, because that is what I AM, and what I believe YOU are too. The world is a better place because of us. We should always aim towards thinking and behaving like royalty, a Woman, never a man.