Take Your Place Back!

I cannot count on one hand or two, how many times I have forgotten where I belonged. Where I belonged in life, in spirit, in mind, and with men. With men... with men!! We seem to place ‘he’ before ‘she,’ a lot! How many of us are showing up in places we don’t belong? Creating permanent residences in temporary dwellings. Trying to build stable houses out of sand. Living, hoping, and coping, with rose-colored 12-year-old fantasies of what we believe love is. Praying that the empty hearts and superficial desires that lie next to us will magically become whole and sincere. Making Bonnie and Clyde the model of our relationships, convincing ourselves that "if he sees me riding and willing to die for him, he won’t leave." Laying down character, discernment, power, control, and our crowns, for longing. Allowing the hims of the world to take over our place, taking up space, disrespecting, defiling, and controlling everything that is rightfully ours! Still, we continuously wake up in a foreign and uncomfortable space, too afraid to leave because the journey home is lonely. But where is home?! Placing everything He created us to be second to what we are pretending to be, and all to feel loved by the hims.

Did you know that women are authority, strength, necessary, beautiful, virtuous, and a first thought for God, not a second? Without woman could man be? Sure. Could man be great? Nah. With woman he has purpose. A complementary partner to gain and conquer with, a diverse equal who provides strength, influence, and support when he’s weakened, tranquility when he’s weary, a feminine softness and sensuality that soothes his thirsting heart and body, a vessel to bear his greatest joys and legacy, and an extra backbone that does not break but remains steadfast in times of tribulation and testing.


We are a creation that provides THEE answer! The courage! The company, the reason to live and the purpose to pursue! God said, “it is not good for man to be alone…” that was a declaration of the unfinished plan. God wasn’t surprised by that revelation, it wasn’t a wavering afterthought or a question, or curiosity, or a “yeah might as well, why not” response. Woman was a forethought created second to display perhaps the order, protection, provision, leadership, and strength.

God is God! All knowing, all possessing, extraordinarily grand, omnipotent, the architect of creativity, brilliance, and purpose! He formed us from a divine decree, making it known through His word, which by the way never changes, that man was not complete without woman, and that we are a requirement for completion; the vital part in this thing.


Ladies, If God thinks so highly of woman, why shouldn’t you and the hims? Why have you laid down your birthright, your place, and your crowns? Allowing abuse, insecurity, disloyalty, depression, defeating thoughts, and heartache, to suffocate you. Why are you SETTLING for people who don’t acknowledge your greatness and treat you accordingly? God did not create us damaged or to compete with the next, nor did Adam have a garden full of side chicks, baby mamas, and wives, he could abuse, demoralize, and carelessly fornicate with whenever.

Think about this, the order in which God created man and woman was perhaps to show and teach man that he could only accomplish and enjoy so much without the partnership of woman, his queen and divine partner. Perhaps, God created Adam first to show him that in ALL things, man must first acknowledge God, showing high esteem and appreciation for all the complex and astounding creations that God has gifted him. How much greater would Adam's joy be over woman! Perhaps, the order was just a reminder of how important and required women truly are. We were designed from man, for man, to strengthen and increase man’s purpose! Know who you are, then take your place!

Ladies, have you given up your place to desperation? Because people keep telling you that a woman needs a man to feel loved, to succeed, or to have purpose? Have you given up your place because of loneliness? Loneliness, which really doesn’t exist if your focus is on building a tighter bond with God than with man. Loneliness can be a beautiful path we travel down to find center, direction, self-love and confidence, peace, renewed strength, clarity, and God!! Loneliness is not ugly or dark, it is simply a moment of solitude, and often a time of much needed rejuvenation for your mind, body, and spirit.

Have you given up your place for “love?” Define Love though. The greatest Love first lies above, flows down and fills us from within. It is not an external search, conceived first between man and woman. Love is not spoken but unseen. Love has more movement and character than it has sound, so simply hearing it or saying it does not make it real. And to be honest, if you haven’t accepted the true LOVE of God, which heals, renews, shapes, and transforms, you will never know how to truly love yourself or how to accept it from anyone else.


Beware of confusing dependability with stability, and pit-stops with destinations, or provisional company for a spiritual soulmate. Know where you belong, start your journey, and take your place back.

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